Oklahoma is not OK
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7/10/2009
If you are a morbidly obese, ignorant, abusive person who loves to sweat for Jesus and you think the Dixie Flag is wonderful and the south's gonna rise agin, you will love the Tulsa area. Also, if you have several dogs that bark all day and night, like to shoot or bow hunt for deer, ride ATVs in your front and back yard, come to Oklahoma.
If you are tall and/or thin, intelligent, open-minded, have a normal accept, can speak (anything except Evangelical "tongues") and write in full sentences, etc. do not consider it. Thin people are glared at here. I was moved here as a teen and even tried to gain weight to fit in. But it was no use. I am average sized now, but still look super skinny here. I rarely leave my house any more. I have had complete strangers talk about how tall I am as they walk by me. Fat, ugly people.
The high humidity combined with the heat of May through September is horrific. It feels like you are trying to breathe under water. Tulsa is known as the allergy capital of the country and it is. The high humidity means high mold counts. It is also very dusty and you can not ever get the dust out of your house. It is dark and dreary in the winter with brown snow and people who drive like maniacs on ice.
The people are obsessed with "religion," but do not walk the walk. I remember as a teen being asked at least a couple of times a day if I was "saved." Tulsa County is not just religious or Christian. It is Oral Roberts University, Rhema Bible School, Victory Christian Center Evangelicals. They are zealots who search and recruit. Their children will take over your children's minds. They are an empty people without souls and as soon as they talk to you and you have no accent, they know you "ain't from aroun' here" and they treat you rudely. This is tripled once they find you have no need to be "saved" by them. I am even a Christian! But, I am not saved enough for these freaks. Oklahoma is 2nd in divorces only to Nevada. The women are desperate to find 'em a man and most people know who they are going to marry by age 16. The rest cheat...and church is often where they find their mistresses.
If you are West or Southwest, stay where you are. Buy a smaller house if you have to to stay somewhere with nice, dry weather and normal people. This place is full of an evil underbelly that will rip out your heart all the while smiling and saying, "God Bless You and Amuraca." It is a backwards, hot, humid cesspool of horrible, fat people who have no respect for personal privacy or spirituality.
My parents didn't like it here either. But my dad ruled the roost and his evangelical parents and two phony "preacher" brothers talked him into moving here. My parents had each other. They had enough money coming from California to buy a much bigger house, better cars, jobs and a pool. But for their intelligent daughters who went to one of the best schools in the country (Marina High School, Huntington Beach, CA), the possibility of adequate friends or marriages was a nightmare. I have been married twice. The second time, I married a man who did not tell me he was an Evangelical who believed he spoke in tongues until after we were married. He abused me-physically, verbally and emotionally and nearly drove me insane trying to "convert" me to the way to Heaven. He was going to be the head of my household if it killed me and it nearly did. I owned my own home and I am my own head of household. Ladies, do not move here. The men are just horrible. The place is infested with pedophiles. OK has the highest number of women in jail for drug runs and prostitution forced upon them by their pimp boyfriends who go free to the next poor woman who falls for their southern charm.
Every day I cry because I live in Tulsa County. I have dreams sometimes about my life in So. California with good, intelligent, friends. I wake up and cry because I am still in Tulsa.
I am trying to figure out a way to hang on to my sanity long enough to sell my house after I pay it off and buy a tiny, tiny house as close to the West Coast as I can get. Any suggestions from AZ, CA, NV, NM? I will be an old lady by then, so it needs to be safe, but I am willing to give up my 4 bedroom 2 1/2 bath house to go anywhere nice and normal and will live in a 1 BR in a safe neighborhood.
OKLAHOMA IS NOT OK...unless you speak in tongues and can't get enough food on to yours and down your throat!
Abhd | Tulsa, OK